It’s a MIRACLE!
How often do you say those words? And truly mean it? My guess is it is pretty infrequently.
Whether we realize it or not, we often focus on the negative, EVEN if there is something equally as positive going on. We are actually programmed to pay attention to the negative and there is a really great reason for this:
“Our capacity to weigh negative input so heavily most likely evolved for a good reason—to keep us out of harm's way. From the dawn of human history, our very survival depended on our skill at dodging danger. The brain developed systems that would make it unavoidable for us not to notice danger and thus, hopefully, respond to it.” (Hara Estroff Marano, Psychology Today, 2003)
So our negativity is ACTUALLY a really beneficial and protective mechanism. But here’s the thing. We don’t have the same risks, dangers and potential harmful factors in our environment today as we did centuries ago.
But often times when ANYTHING unexpected or undesirable shows up in our life (which feels like danger to our critter brain), we automatically focus on the negative.
This bears true for our health as well. When we experience symptoms (mood swings, depression, lack of energy), cravings, or even unwanted behaviours (hello, late night cookie binge!), our initial response is usually negative. We often load up with judgement, frustration, maybe even anger because at the root of those emotions is a desire to protect and make the bad just go away. And we somehow think that judgement and feeling bad about ourselves will make us stop. That’s the negativity bias showing its grumpy little head. RARELY, do we say “It’s a miracle!”
So often, we’re told - or we think - the answer to this negativity is, “Just focus on the positive!” In other words...forget about the problem, pretend it’s not there and look for other things that are more positive to focus on.
I suppose that’s a start, but there are some inherent dangers in this. Ignored symptoms are going to get your attention any way they can…usually by getting worse.
So, what if we could take this one step further?? What if we could actually shift our perspective and SEE the positive in those symptoms, cravings and behaviours? Better yet…what if we could CELEBRATE these things? Look at them as a gift? And give them the attention they need?
One of the foundational beliefs that I hold as true in my own life and in coaching my clients is that our symptoms, behaviours and cravings are actually a GIFT! They are really the best solution that our body and brain has come up with so far. AND, they are messengers or signals trying to get your attention that you’re ready for a change.
So what if we started to embrace these messengers and celebrate that they show up to help you step into the best version of who you are? What if the challenges you’re facing are simply signals for your to up-level and to reach your fullest potential??
Dr. Dan Engle is an amazing physician who is a change-maker in the area of brain and mood health. He states, “CRISIS precedes transformation every time.”
You might be in a hard-spot right now, it might even feel hopeless. It would be easy to focus on and wallow in negativity. But I invite you to consider that your body and mind are actually doing you a HUGE favour. You have a fine-tuned signalling device calling out to you, saying it’s ready for something new.
Now THAT’S a miracle!